He is not asking:
Why do you do everything but what needs to get done?
What's so hard about laundry and dishes?
Why are you so emotional?
How are you going to earn my love?
How are you going to be a better mom today?
Why do you complain so much?
He just sees me and looks at me with his big blue eyes full of adoration and says in a high sing songy voice "Mama" and raises his hands to be lifted up then tucks his legs up around me like a sweet baby monkey. utterly happy.