TIP #1 -- Come over to my house at any time -- Just POP RIGHT IN -- and you will no longer feel bad about your housekeeping skills!
I feel so grateful for friends who have popped in and seen my house in all its Grand Tornado-ness and still love me and still pop by. Now when I say Grand Tornado, I do not mean "usually perfectly styled but today I have a few toys out." No, I mean full on chaos and dish, clothes and toy carnage. I've discovered that I am not really bugged by visual clutter , and it takes me A LOT longer to be bothered by stuff piling up around me. I will have a Super motivated day every once in a while and storm through my house, cleaning like mad. Then, I feel so proud of myself that I give myself the week off. So by the weekend I'm back in disaster recovery mode again. This has been my consistent cycle for the last ahem eight years. I am trying to swallow hard and invite anyone in no matter the state of my house so that I can break down the feelings of inadequacy and the feeling that my house is me. I use to disclaim every time someone came in and then I started to stop myself because I realized all it did was make people more aware of the mess. Now I'm not saying I am going to give up cleaning. I'm just going to give up the guilt and shame attached so that I can be free to clean my house for me and my family not to impress others. The plus side to all of this is that if I ever pop into your house you NEVER EVER have to disclaim about the cleanliness of your house because you'll know I feel right at home.
(p.s. don't you love that Burger is sitting in the diaper box that has now been turned into a car or boat or airplane -- soaring over the mess that is my bedroom)